Voice Within

Love has no boundaries and because it often occur to someone that lives in one country could easily fall in love with someone that lives in a different country. And you would ask: will a long distance relationship work?

Geography can be a great hindrance which lovers have to overcome. There's no doubts that it is easier to develop a relationship with someone that lives next door. You'll be able to ask that person out and enjoy some quality time together to see if you both are compatible. The relationship is rather different if that person lives in a further country, or worse yet, on a different continent.

Long distance relationship can be extremely powerful and at the same time emotional. Most likely you keep in touch with each other by way of writing a love letter, emails or simply talking on the telephone. This way you'll be able to think about the way you imagine the person you're in love with is or the things they think about you. It’s likely that you might be making things up in your thoughts by just misinterpreting the other person's words. At some point, in case you move in together there is a chance that this individual with whom you have been in a long distance relationship with, could possibly turn out to be a completely different person, the opposite of what you have imagined them to be. It could be very disappointing.

Even so, if you are both willing enough to make the long distance relationship work, in that case it's going to work. It will take a lot of trust, devotion, communication, love and commitment. It also will depend on the chance of the distance being eventually overcomed. Sooner or later one among you should leave their friends, family and job just to cut that distance away and it is a huge step that needs to be done to make the relationship work.

It is important to remember that absolutely no quality relationship is easy. All are hard work in their own way. However, in case you have found a person of your dreams, even if that person lives on a different continent, could the distance really be an obstacle for you? You decide.

by: Allison Fabian & Donna Jackson

Instead of simply counting the ways you love him, take the time to put them down on paper. Why?

While the handwritten love letter is a disappearing art in this electronic age – a recent survey conducted by the Parker Pen Company found that the average American last received one 14 years ago – a heartfelt note to your man can “strengthen your bond by creating a sense of connectedness”, says Sandra Whitefield, a Chicago based relationship therapist.

“Mood–lifting endorphins are released when you receive compliments. And, of course, it feels good to give them.” For a make-him-melt message, Whitefield recommends:

OPENING UP Begin with an appreciative statement such as, “I love you so much I need to tell you what’s in my heart.”

SHOWERING HIM WITH PRAISE Write down everything you adore about him. Imagine your partner is sitting in front of you; walk around him, writing down description of what you love about his physical appearance, character, and actions.

BEING TRUE If you aren’t a mushy person, don’t be mushy. Simple language and statements will still get your message across and will seem more genuine.

PRESENTING UNQUALIFIED COMPLIMENTS “I love you when you hug me” shouldn’t be followed by a negative statement such as… “but you do it so often.”

ADDING A PERSONAL TOUCH Include a photo of two of you or a lipstick kiss.

People are often confused and unable to discern the frustrating flush of the magical experience of falling in love.

Infatuation is the initial, instant attraction and intense desire for a person .

Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root, develops and grows one day at a time. The process is slow.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating on you. Sometimes you check perhaps even discreetly.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels the same also and this makes both even more trustworthy.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions or some unclear actions about your beloved that you would not like to examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles of distance do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.

Infatuation has an element of excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company.

Love is the maturation of friendship. You are confident that you must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation is usually temporary and eventually fades. It, however, might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.

Love is an upper. It makes you look up. Love usually lasts longer and goes deeper than strong Feelings. It makes you think up and makes you a better person.

Infatuation makes you feel anxious, nervous and jealous. You feel convinced that you can't live without the other person. You are unable to see the person for who they really are because he/she is perfect in your eyes.

Love makes you feel excited. You are willing to respect the other person's opinions and accept the good or bad qualities. You share similar values and beliefs and you see the person for who they really are.

Infatuation says, We must get married right away! I can't risk losing you!

Love says, Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence. There are rewards in waiting.

"Sometimes love is for a moment, sometimes love is for a lifetime. Sometimes a moment is a lifetime."

The place where I want to be
Is a peaceful place.
I like it in the morning when the sun
shines and lightens me up
and the wind is cool, that soothes me;
makes me feel fresh.
And the river - where I bath and washes
my face in the morning.
And the bridge at the river, where I
walk and sings.

Yes, and my place is a paradise to me
full of different flowers.
Where I walk and lie down and listen
to the wind and birds.
And yes, the place where I can smile and laugh
and fly myself as I ride in a swing.
And when I'm lonely, I'll sit under the tree
gather myself myrtles and rest.
And when I'll be hungry, I'll satisfy myself
with fresh fruits.
And when the day is about to be over
I'll watch the moon and stars that smiles.
And I'll always remember the place
where I want to be.
That somehow in my memory
I know I have gone here - Already.