Voice Within

by: Allison Fabian & Donna Jackson

Instead of simply counting the ways you love him, take the time to put them down on paper. Why?

While the handwritten love letter is a disappearing art in this electronic age – a recent survey conducted by the Parker Pen Company found that the average American last received one 14 years ago – a heartfelt note to your man can “strengthen your bond by creating a sense of connectedness”, says Sandra Whitefield, a Chicago based relationship therapist.

“Mood–lifting endorphins are released when you receive compliments. And, of course, it feels good to give them.” For a make-him-melt message, Whitefield recommends:

OPENING UP Begin with an appreciative statement such as, “I love you so much I need to tell you what’s in my heart.”

SHOWERING HIM WITH PRAISE Write down everything you adore about him. Imagine your partner is sitting in front of you; walk around him, writing down description of what you love about his physical appearance, character, and actions.

BEING TRUE If you aren’t a mushy person, don’t be mushy. Simple language and statements will still get your message across and will seem more genuine.

PRESENTING UNQUALIFIED COMPLIMENTS “I love you when you hug me” shouldn’t be followed by a negative statement such as… “but you do it so often.”

ADDING A PERSONAL TOUCH Include a photo of two of you or a lipstick kiss.